Boys, please stop scaring the living crap out of women. If you’re creepy, they’re going to reject you.

It is a well-known fact, guys, that once you creep her out, it’s game over.

Let me repeat, even if you’re the most handsome, intellectual, passionate, personable dude in the WORLD, once you get the ‘creepy’ label, you are NOT getting her phone number. There’s just no chance (zip, zero, zilch, my friend).

I know this from personal experience because I have unfortunately (and unintentionally) creeped out a few girls in my day. TRUST ME, I am not bragging, as these were not my finest moments.

So what do I mean by creeping?

I have approached a woman from behind when she wasn’t expecting it (Oops – rookie mistake).

I have gotten too close to her, invading her personal “space” (Yikes – drunken mistake).

I have told a “dirty” joke too early in the conversation (Awkward – socially obnoxious Adam mistake).

Though all my bone-head moves are ultimately great tips on what NOT to do, there’s something much more essential to be learned as you get out there and meet women (so you don’t run the risk of making them feel uncomfortable).

Watch this video to find out my “Anti-Creeping Key.”

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Be a “doer” without DOING it.

When we go out with our buds at night, there are two kinds of dudes.

The first type is the “Doer”. He’s the guy who’s getting at it and approaching every girl he sees without hesitation.

The second type is what is known as the “watcher”. I used to be this guy.
This is the guy who is sitting in the corner and wondering, “Why can’t I just go up there and talk to girls?”

I used to lack confidence.

I used to lack knowledge.

But most importantly, I was focusing all of my mental energy on the wrong thing.

Imagine becoming a “Doer” without having to actually DO the approach. Find out how you can be the “Doer” in this video.

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And we get that immediate nervous response. We think, “Shit, I should seriously do this. I have no excuse.”

But you don’t know if she’ll be receptive. Will she throw her hand in my face or respond with a smile?

You begin looking for “indicators of interest” but she doesn’t know you even exist – she’s not looking anywhere near you. This will be the definition of a cold approach.

Well, there’s one major factor that will seriously improve your chance for success.

You will have almost a two times greater chance of her giving you her number when it’s a sunny day out.

According to a scientifically published article entitled “Weather and Courtship Behavior*,” women are 13.9% likely to give their phone number to a guy on a cloudy day, and 22.4% likely on a sunny day.

Now, if this “study subject” had a chance to take my six-week program he’d have a much higher success rate than 13-22%; however, I completely agree that a beautiful sunny day is THE DAY to meet your dream girl. And this is why I love the month of March…

Not to brag (OK fine, I’m bragging just a little), but I have a near 60-90% success rate getting a phone number from a girl sitting by herself in the park on a beautiful day. On a crappy rainy or cloudy day this number is certainly much lower, and it’s also lower if I’m approaching a girl indoors (such as a mall).

So now that the weather is warming up, here are a few quick tips on how to get a girl’s phone number in the park on a SUNNY day:

1. Seek out the Solo Sally: Why complicate things by approaching “groups of girls” or “mixed sets”? Sure, it’s possible to approach any group, but I’ve found that if a girl is reading a book in the park on a sunny day, she’ll be very receptive to an approach.
2. Her energy level + 1: During the day, you do not need to be as animated as at night time because there isn’t as much “energy” in the interaction. You certainly want to be charismatic, but don’t overkill your intensity, as you might startle her. Just match her energy and add a little umph to it.
3. Get Socially Warmed Up: Get socially warmed up before doing any approaches. Go around asking for directions to Starbucks, get a few high fives and kill the jitters before your first approach. This will significantly reduce your approach anxiety when it’s “go time.”
4. Go direct: Only go direct during the day – there’s nothing as effective as something along the lines of, “I saw you reading that book and I must say, you look absolutely incredible…my name’s ____.” If you’re too nervous to go direct, then focus more on step 3.
5. Dress to match the moment: Back when I was an amateur dummy, I used to go out in black skin-tight leather pants on a hot sunny day because I thought that was cool. If you dress “try hard” she will think you’re just walking around the park trying to pick up every girl there (which you probably are). Plus you’ll look like a douche. Dress just a little better than most guys walking around the park that day.

So cheers to another incredible spring-summer of daytime approaches. If you want to see me in the field doing approaches, check out “Go Talk to Her” and if you want to work on this skill, take the six-week “How to Talk to Her” program introduced after you watch the film.

Any questions about approaching a girl on a sunny day in the park? Leave them below and I’ll respond as soon as possible.

*http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15534510.2012.752401

She logs on Facebook to see 1,098,783 updates on her newsfeed about this “special day”.

She goes to work and all of her female coworkers are not so subtly bragging about the delicious breakfast their husbands made for them.

She leaves work and gets a call from her mom wishing her a happy V-day and asking her “So, when are you going to find your “Mr. Right”?

Valentine ‘s Day is arguably the most emotional day for single women all year and it’s your responsibility…NO it’s your damn DUTY to make sure those emotions are transformed into positive memories for a very special gal out there.

Basically, the goal of this email is to rid you of “Excusitis”. Get your ass off the couch and go meet some of those single girls waiting to be swept off their feet on this magical day.

Valentine’s Day Specific Convo Starters:

Create a Memorable “How we met story”

Open: “Excuse me, I just saw you standing there [or another context of how you saw her] and I need to tell you that you look stunning, and given that it’s the most romantic day of the year, I had to at least come up and introduce myself. My name’s [your name]”

Her typical response: “Oh hi. My name’s [her name]” (Remember, she may be so taken off guard at this point that it’s your responsibility to carry the conversation forward.”

Follow up: “Well, I totally screwed up huh [slapping your hands by your sides], I could’ve brought chocolate and a cheesy Hallmark card to make this a real memorable moment. Oh well, next Valentine’s Day I won’t forget to get that for you.”

Her Likely response: “You totally screwed up” (Sarcastically) OR “No, you’re doing just fine” OR “You’re getting ahead of yourself huh?” – All are positive responses.

Tip: Move on from the whole Valentine’s Day theme after a few more minutes. Don’t overplay Valentine’s Day.

Ask her Valentine’s Day Opinion:

Open: “Hey excuse me, I need girl assistance, my friend has been dating a girl for two years and completely forgot to get her anything for Valentine’s Day. He’s calling me frantically because he has an hour after work to figure out how to surprise her. Any ideas?”

Her Response: “Hmm…Just get her flowers” Or something probably pretty lame (since you put her on the spot and most people are not “quick”).

Follow Up: “Well, I’ve been telling him that he should make her favorite dinner, make her a hand written card, and then give her the absolute best shag she’s ever had. I feel like that’s all a girl really wants right?”

Tip: Don’t spend longer than 3 minutes on this topic. Get her idea and then transition onto a new topic.

Bold Night Time Move

Open: “Listen, I’ve been searching around this entire establishment, and have made the difficult yet obvious decision that you are my Valentine”

Her potential response: “You use that on all the girls don’t you?”

Follow up: “You know, that’s insulting! [smiling]. I’ve been practicing that line for 3 weeks now waiting for the perfect girl to walk in and now you accuse me of having no Valentine’s Day romance!!”

Remember, these are all just examples of what I might use. Feel free to use mine, or be original. Just remember, that it should be funny, animated and impactful.

As far as “where to go”, lemme give you some insight as to my night.

My Personal Agenda Today/Tonight

• 5PM to 6:30 PM: Read at a Coffee Shop. If she’s in a coffee shop at the hour on Valentine’s Day, she’s single and looking.
• 6:30 to 8 PM: Go home and have a quick bite because you have a bit night ahead of you.
• 8 PM to 9:30 PM: Go to a Yoga Class. If she’s going to Yoga at 8 PM on Valentine’s Day, she’s single, and most likely gorgeous.
• 9:30 PM to 10:30 PM: Get showered up and wear a red shirt.
• 10:30 PM to 1 PM: Head to the local lounge bar. If she’s rolling solo or with friends, she is 110% single. Grab her number, and be sure to insert, “I know this is cliché since it’s Valentine’s Day, but I would love to grab your phone number. What is it?”

So what do yah know? I’ve removed all excuses for you to stay in.

Happy “Opportunity Day”

Adam

You WILL finally lose 10 pounds.

You WILL finally get a girlfriend.

But lemme tell yah one thing about setting goals, 92% of them are meaningless and ineffective*.

Why?

Most goals are far too outcome driven. Losing 10 pounds is just an end result. Getting the girlfriend is a just perceived destination.

Sure, it is important to have a vision of your desired accomplishment, but you need to realize that a vision without consistent behavior is just an idea.

For example, I have been overweight pretty much my entire life. But this month is the first time that I can confidently say that I am not chunky.

Fat-dam (Fat Adam) is now dead.

How?

Simple. I set a behavioral goal at the beginning of 2012 to go to crossfit 4 days per week and eat a strict Paleo diet every day except Sundays. I did not step on the scale every morning hoping to lose my “10 pounds”.

My vision of being physically fit did nothing for me over the past 15 years of trying to lose weight – but my 2012 consistent behavioral goal did. I stuck to my behavior and am now loving the outcome.

(Picture on the left is from when I weighed 235 my senior year of college. Picture on the right is from this Halloween weighing in at 190. I didn’t want to send a straight shirtless picture because I’m a dating coach…not a douche)

So let’s talk about how this relates to dating.

Now, if you want to finally get a girlfriend this year, I want you to ONLY focus on your behaviors.

Learn to be more objective about your social behaviors and I assure you that your desired outcome will happen.

• Are you going out enough nights per week?
• Are you approaching enough women every night you go out?
• Are you using Adam’s direct approach when you meet women during the day?
• Are you doing enough warm up exercises before you go out and socialize?
• Are you going on enough dates?

Lastly, the reason why I was so successful at losing weight is because my strategy was the RIGHT strategy. Crossfit exercising and the Paleo diet combined together is unbelievably effective..

Same goes with your dating life. You could approach 1,000 women this year but if you’re not doing it correctly you may get NO results.

Luckily, I’ve approached well over 3,000 women and have read everything known to man about approaching and dating women.

Watch “Go Talk to Her” to make 2013 the year you finally get the outcome you’ve always desired.

Cheers to an amazing year ahead.

Best Wishes,

Adam

So what does that mean? You have an amazing opportunity to meet that special gal. So I wanted to give you an example of how I might start a conversation on New Years Eve.

Here’s the breakdown:

Ideal Situation: Girl standing by herself and you lock eyes

Open: I noticed that you’ve been scoping me out, but just so you know, I will NOT [heavy animation communication] be your New Years kiss [smiling heavily, because it's a joke].

Example response from girl: Who says I wanted to kiss you?

Follow up: You kidding me? These lips have been getting propositioned ALL night. I just assumed you were just like the others…

Animation Communication (Body Language): Look away from her and cross your arms as you tell her she will not kiss you. As if you are standing your ground. When you explain that you’ve been getting propositioned, point to your lips, and even pucker them for added impact.

Best Used: Night time (New Years Eve)

Level of impact: High

Now listen, I don’t want you to copy this “line” word for word because I assure you that your delivery will be off – because it’s NOT yours, it’s mine.

However, I do want you to understand the concept behind what I’m doing here so that you can create your own (or use a varied version of mine). Here’s what I’m doing:

I’m wildly unique (she has never had a guy say something like that to her before).

I’m high impact (saying something very unexpected and memorable).

I’m polarizing (either she’s going to like me a lot, or not at all).

I’m funny (because it’s a joke, silly).

I’m confident (because I’m not playing it safe, I’m a risk taker).

But most importantly, I have an amazing, eccentric, exciting and fun vibe.

Is 2013 going to be the year of [YOUR NAME]? Are you ready to meet [HER NAME]?

Get started by watching my newest film, “Go Talk to Her”

Cosmopolitan did a featured piece on my new film, ”Go Talk To Her”: A film about confidently meeting women in every day places before I even released it to the general public!

Wait, what? Isn’t Cosmo a magazine for women? Yes, this is why it’s fascinating.

Guys, the whole premise of my film is that women WANT you to approach them during the day. Cosmo conducted a survey at the bottom of my featured article about my film, “Go Talk To Her”, and the results were astounding (from over 1,900 women responding).

Only 3% of women prefer to be approached at night

And more importantly, 88% of women want to be approached during the day or “whenever”

Most importantly, women are PSYCHED that I’ve created this film. They want you to chat them up in every day places: Whole foods, the park, on the subway – not on the sweaty dance floors in the night club.

There is an unbelievable opportunity out there if you’re willing to leave the bars and step back into the real world.

Watch the film trailer today

This is a classic situation for guys. You go out, you spend 10-20 minutes with a girl at the bar, she’s all into you, you both laugh at how hipsters are no longer cool and that the bar is full of Jersey shore, “Situation wanna be’s”. You’re flirting and she’s SO into you.

But then, her girlfriend comes along, and says “We need to go!”.

But it’s ok! You go through the wonderful formality of exchanging phone numbers.

You wait until Sunday afternoon to text her,” hey, I’d love to see you again, let’s grab a drink this week”
You stare at your phone awaiting the response.

Nothing comes

You figure, she’s probably out to dinner with her parents or something.

Nothing comes.

Then tomorrow, nothing comes.

But wait, didn’t you have an amazing connection? Learn the why women feel attraction so much differently than men and how to avoid getting flaked on once you get a phone number.

Watch the video to learn more.

Guys, stop using the same old lame “ice breakers” to start a conversation and begin using fire starters to ignite the conversation. Women are bored of boring dudes trying the same weak ass tactics.

It’s time to man up, and use a conversation starter that will create a true emotional response from women.

To work with me personally and learn to meet the type of women you know you deserve, come to my upcoming dating bootcamp for men.

When we’re going out at and getting our groove on, women are constantly grilling us with boring factual based questions. They want to get to “know us” and see whether or not we’re “date-able” (AKA, they’re qualifying the CRAP out of us).

Well, when girls ask me these BORING questions, they have another thing coming to them. In this video I share my style of response to the three questions all girls ask men when you first meet them:

• What do you do for a living?
• Where are you from?
• How old are you?

Man! Such boring questions! Whatever you do, don’t react to a boring question with a boring answer. They’re not judging you based on the factual responses that come out of your mouth, they’re judging your ability to turn the conversation into a witty banter.

Watch the video above to find out how I respond to such a horrible inquisition.